Moving On

Suddenly remembered that I did have a bloggie so decided to update it :D

Okayy, status report since I left this blog :

Not much has changed, except my relationship status(again).
I was officially taken on the 20th August 2011 till tonight that is 3rd September 2011.
Yeah, it's no big deal. Wasn't gonna work out anyway :(
Either way, I'm back to being Ren again no more double. Gonna make through it.


Alright, enough with that already, what I'm really looking forward to is the re-opening of school. # what the heck, I am?!?!

Apparently I am. School is amazing nowadays. Yeah, I may complain about the homework, irritation by irritating species of humans and sosuch, but really, school seems to be the only way to move on and get a grip on life.

So, about moving on.
If you just suffered a horrible break-up, lost a precious object, family member and sosuch, there are many ways to recover your lost spirit and happiness:

1) Be strong. Loss is normal. Really, belive me, it is.

2) Get a hobby. The more you dwell on a subject, the more you are inclined to cry or mull over it.

3) Smile even if it hurts. Don't be surprised, smiling helps to positi-fy (is the even such a word?) the brain and emotional heart.

4) Learn to let go. The closer you keep a subject to your heart, the harder a time you will have.

5) Tell someone. Tell your best friend, dog, cat, tree, roxk on the side of your block and sosuch. Heck, tell a random person who isn't closely associated with the problem. I'm serious here, because then that person will have a different opinion so you might
actually listen to that person. I THINK.

6) Get involved in charity. Helping others is a really good way to start your life back, there's a certain satisfaction in helping the less fortunate here.

7) In this context, always say never. The more negative you feel, the more you have to
say never to this kind of feeling. Keep it real, realize that happiness ain't gonna last forever. Then again, sadness plays by the same rules too right?

Well that's all for tonight, folks, take care and HAPPY SEPTEMBER WORLD :)

adieu, sayonara, selamat tinggal, goodnight :)

Sincerely, RenMarsレン。

YOU KNOW YOU ARE HIS FAN WHEN...

You know you are a fan of Bruno Mars aka Peter Gene Hernandez when :

Whenever someone feels upset with the way he/she looks, you sing, "Girl/Boy you're amazing, just the way you are~"

You listen to his songs every minute of everyday in your head wherever you are.

You eat, sleep, drink, dance and sing Bruno.

Every 8th October, you rejoice.

Whenever a Bruno Mars song comes on the radio, the volume goes from the normal to the loudest you can go.

You wake up every morning with your headphones on and your iPod still playing his songs.

When you stalk his Twitter and Facebook.

You talk about nothing else, well, almost.

You can quote his songs into any conversation.

You jump like a maniac when you see a fedora.

You become a die-heart romantic if you weren't formerly.

In science class, when you learn astronomy, your favourite planet is Mars.

You write his name everyday, not because you'll forget it, but because you want to remember it.

You watch action movies with grenades in it.

You bookmark his website, fan page and music videos at the top of your bookmark list. Better yet, you remember them by heart.

You can't go a day without singing one of his songs.

Whenever you feel lazy and you get some boring work, you sing "Today I don't feel like doing anything~"



Hee~

sincerely, -RENMARS-

More Of Bruno :D

As I promised in my earlier post, I'm gonna post a couple of photo's, mv's and so-so on Bruno Mars.

Well, I tend to disappoint, but NEVER when it comes to Bruno Mars :D

AND HERE THEY ARE !

This was my facebook profile picture for months.

Peace, people!

Adorable, right? For some reason he looks so cute <3

A live performane in Houston, Texas in 2010.

Not yet? Not yet for? Well... Thats for the fans to keep guessing :D

On the Grenade mv set.

Love the fedora.

He plays the harmonica too.

A darker looking side of Bruno.

From the music video 'Liqour Store Blues'.

Handsome as ever in a jean jacket.

I like blue, like his guitar :D

Yeah, he's kinda short here -,- but still awesome :D

His simple dress style is actually a great turn-on x)

Doo-Wop and Hooligans Live Performance Tour.

Show them pearly whites! :D

I'm actually a bit jealous here -,- Lucky b*tch*s.

I love this one :D

Him and rapper Rick Ross :)

A more nerdier version :P

Caught on camera!!

Him and guitar again :)

Melancholic.

Live performance in Las Vegas, Nevada on the 19th of September 2010

Him on the keyboard at a performance on the 24th of November 2010.

Preparing for Grenada music video, I think :'>

Only he can make nerdy glasses look awe-mazing <3

Him in Hawaii.

Him on a speaker XD

Brimming with charisma in this one ;)

Love the famous fedora yet again <3

His bewitching, sexy smile never fails to melt my heart.

He can sing and he can play. He is....the AMAZING PETER GENE HERNANDEZ

<3

Live performance at the Wireless Festival :)

Ooh, I love this one so muchh <3 <3 <3

Dashin as ever in a tuxedo :D

Simple yet tasteful in a winter-like get-up.

The famous nerd-ish glasses =D

I love the pin-stripe jacket :D Its just so..HIM <3

A live performance.

I hate pink but it looks good on him.

Him with a guitar.

Another one.

He blew me awayy with this photo :D Handsome huh?

I love his jacket <3

He has tattoos :D

This last one is a personal favourite of mine :')

Here I would like to insert a few snippets of info on Bruno Mars :D

1~> Bruno Mars has five tattoos in total.
Tattoo 1
Is on his left forearm of a gypsy woman, which shall bring good luck. In an interview Bruno said that he gave the tattooist a pretty picture but the tattoo looks like an old Elizabeth Taylor now. Tattoo 2
Bruno has another tattoo on his right forearm which is an anchor. Tattoo 3
He also has another tattoo on his left bicep which is a a knife which reads 'Pete's Boy' underneath (Bruno's real name is Peter and so is his dad's) which he got with his father. Tattoo 4
On his right shoulder he has a tattoo of his mother's name, Bernadette. Tattoo 5
He doesn't have a fifth tattoo anymore because he got it covered up, but he did have a sacred heart which he got when he was 19. Unfortunately the tattoo was upside down, in an interview Bruno said it looked like an "A** shooting fire." He had it for two years before getting it covered up.

2~> His height is 5"7.

3~> His favourite dinosaur is the T-Rex because it's big and fierce.

4~> He likes chicken and his favourite wine is brandy.

Here are a couple of Q'S and A's about him :

1. You’re 23 years old now. Let’s rewind to 18. What were you doing at that age, during this same moment?
I just got signed to Motown Records as a solo artist. But I was too young. I had been doing shows my whole life. I had never really recorded, and never had too much experience recording. Let alone producing, I had never written a song before. It worked out the way it had to work out because I needed to learn a lot.

2. How’d your moniker come about?
Bruno is after Bruno Sammartino, who was this big fat wrestler. I guess I was this chunky little baby, so my dad used to call me that as a nickname. The Mars came up just because I felt like I didn’t have no pizzazz, and a lot of girls say I’m out of this world, so I was like I guess I’m from Mars.

3. Why did you decide to leave Hawaii to pursue a music career in L.A.?
I accomplished a lot in Hawaii as an entertainer, but never really dabbled in original music. I was like a circus freak—I used to sing songs, I used to open up for a Las Vegas-style magic show. I’d sing songs for all the tourists. It was always cover songs—everything from Chuck Berry to Usher. Then I got fed up, like I’m singing songs to a bunch of tourists that don’t even speak English. I felt like I could do more. I do miss Hawaii though. People over there are real content and satisfied with just being on an island, having kids at a very young age. It’s not like you’re trying to be an actor or trying to be a musician with millions of other people, and it’s just hustle, hustle, hustle. That’s what I miss the most, just going down there and everyone’s just living life, as opposed to grinding.

4. Did you have any weird moments when you first arrived in L.A. that made you think, “This place is crazy”?
I remember pulling up to my parking stall one day and there was this homeless guy just squatting and turding all over. That was my “Welcome home.” At that time, I was driving a Volkswagen Jetta. It had one window that wouldn’t roll down in the summer and no locks on the door. And of course no radio or no AC.

5. What’s the significance of some of your tattoos?
The last tattoo I got was my mother’s name on my arm, Bernadette. The first one I ever got, I was 19, it was a sacred heart. I got it upside down. It basically looked like an ass shooting fire. I had it for about two years before I was like, “Let me do something about this.” So I got it covered up. My mom’s reaction to my first tattoo was, “Why are you marking up your body?” Then after I showed her I got her name tattooed on me, she was ecstatic.

6. Besides “Nothin’ on You,” which record are you and The Smeezingtons most proud of creating?
For me, there’s a song we did with K’naan featuring Adam Levine called “Bang Bang.” That kinda established our sound as producers because it was one of the first songs we did. That was for K’naan’s album, Troubadour. We had [Maroon 5 frontman] Adam Levine sing the hook, which was pretty big. I think if you listen to “Bang Bang” and “Nothin’ on You,” they could’ve been on the same album because it’s like this different hip-hop with live instrumentation. I think our strong point is live instrumentation.

7. How do you, Phil, and Ari decide on a final product during the recording process?

Bruno: Phil throws a fit.
Phil: I’m the strongest, so we arm wrestle.
Bruno: Well, that’s why we’re together because we don’t have those problems. We all trust each other’s judgment. Sometimes I’ll be like, “I really don’t like that.” And both Ari and Phil will be like, “You’re trippin’, dog, you’re trippin’.” Or I’ll play something, then Phil will sing it, and then we’ll find it. We’re not the greatest musicians in the world, but we can make some hot shit.

8. What is your thought process when going in to make a record?
I think it always happens differently. Sometimes we’ll have a melody first. Sometimes we’ll hear someone say something, “I believe in magic.” Then it’ll be like, “Wow, that really resonated.” So I’ll go write that down on a piece of paper. Then we’ll take that melody that he hummed or I hummed and we’ll try to put that little phrase in there. But it always works differently. Some people like to call it math, we call it science [laughs].

9. Are there any songs you felt embarrassed about creating?

Bruno: This is like two years ago. We were getting drunk in the studio one night and this guy was playing a track and we wrote this song called “Bedroom Bandit.” We swore it was a smash. Then we sobered up the next day. Phil, don’t sing it.
Phil: It was really bad. [Sings] I said you can’t tie me down, shorty, I’m already with the next girl/ You can’t tie me down, ’cause I’m the bedroom bandit.

10. What can we expect from your full-length debut album that’s set for release later this year?
You can expect that we’re gonna put our balls into it. Luckily, I feel like everything that we’ve been working for and everything we’ve learned in the past couple years has really enhanced our production and our writing. I guess we’re at our most creative zone right now. We’re excited that “Nothin’ on You” and “Billionaire” are both getting love and they’re kinda two totally different sounds. That’s always been our struggle ’cause we love so many kinds of music. Like I play the guitar on stage. I love old R&B and all that. I think that’s kinda helping us break as artists because people don’t know what to expect, which is a good thing. I’d love to work with Danger Mouse, I love Mark Ronson. Mark Ronson gets the live instrumentation without it sounding too adult contemporary. There’s a fine line.

MORE UPDATES ON BRUNO MARS SHALL COME, BUT FOR NOW...

ENJOY READING ABOUT THIS AWE-MAZING SINGER ^^

I bid all of you adieu.

-RENMARS レン。-

A Little Bit Of Bruno ^^

It doesn't matter who we are or what race, religion, gender or skin colour, mostly everyone does like some sort of celeb.
They could be a singer, actor / actress, dancer, tv host...(The list can go onandonandon you know xP) You get my point right?

Well, for me, my biggest obssession since last year is a certain singer.

His name?

I'll let the article below tell you all about him.

Who knows, he might read it one day <3

I'd be the luckiest human on Earth if I could ever meet him :D

ALL ABOUT BRUNO MARS

REAL NAME : PETER GENE HERNANDEZ

STAGE NAME : BRUNO MARS

BORN DAY : 8th October 1985

BORN PLACE : HONOLULU, HAWAII

OCCUPATIONS : SINGER-SONGWRITER, RECORD PRODUCER

INSTRUMENTS : VOCALS, DRUMS, GUITAR, KEYBOARD, BASS

YEARS ACTIVE : 1990-PRESENT.

OKAY, THAT WAS THE INTRODUCTIONS.

Now, here's something of his early life <3

~> Mars was born Peter Gene Hernandez and raised in the Waikiki neighborhood of Honolulu, Hawaii, by parents Bernadette "Bernie" and Pete Hernandez, of Filipino and Puerto Rican descent.His mother emigrated to Hawaii from the Philippines as a child and his father moved to the island from Brooklyn, New York.
Mars' parents met while performing in a show, where his mother was a hula dancer and his father played percussion. At the age of two, he was nicknamed "Bruno" by his father, because of his resemblance to chubby professional wrestler Bruno Sammartino.
Mars was one of six children and came from a musical family who exposed him to a diverse mix of reggae, rock, hip hop, and R&B. From a young age, he was impersonating and performing songs by artists such as Michael Jackson, Elvis Presley, The Isley Brothers, and The Temptations.
At age four, Mars began performing five days a week with his family's band, The Love Notes, in which he became known on the island for his impersonation of Presley.In 1990, Mars was featured in MidWeek as "Little Elvis", going on to have a cameo in the film Honeymoon in Vegas in 1992.
He later reflected on the influence Presley had on his music, saying, "I watch the best. I'm a big fan of Elvis. I'm a big fan of 1950s Elvis when he would go on stage and scare people because he was a force and girls would go nuts! You can say the same thing for Prince or The Police. It's just guys who know that people are here to see a show, so I watch those guys and I love studying them because I'm a fan."
In 2010, he also acknowledged his Hawaiian roots and musical family as an influence, saying, "Growing up in Hawaii made me the man I am. I used to do a lot of shows in Hawaii with my father's band. Everybody in my family sings, everyone plays instruments. My uncle's an incredible guitar player, my dad's an incredible percussionist, my brother's a great drummer, he actually plays in our band. I've just been surrounded by it."
In 2003, shortly after graduating from President Theodore Roosevelt High School at the age of seventeen, Mars moved to Los Angeles, California to pursue a musical career. He adopted his stage name from the nickname his father gave him, adding "Mars" at the end because "I felt like I didn't have [any] pizzazz, and a lot of girls say I’m out of this world, so I was like I guess I'm from Mars."
^{*A ren footnote----> I'm not surprised <3*}
Shortly after moving to Los Angeles, Mars signed to Motown Records in 2004, in a deal that "went nowhere". However, Mars' experience with Motown proved to be beneficial to his career when he met songwriter and producer Philip Lawrence, who was also signed to the label.
Mars, Lawrence, and engineer Ari Levine began writing songs together, and formed the production team The Smeezingtons. In 2006, Lawrence introduced Mars to his future manager at Atlantic Records, Aaron Bay-Schuck.
After hearing him play a couple of songs on the guitar, Bay-Schuck wanted to sign him immediately, but it took about three years for Atlantic records to finally sign Mars to the label. In the meantime, Bay-Schuck hired Mars and the Smeezingtons to write and produce songs for the label's artists.
According to Bay-Schuck in an interview with HitQuarters, Mars had stated that although his ultimate goal was to be a solo artist, he was willing to write and produce for other artists, both to help improve his songwriting and help him discover the type of artist he ultimately wanted to be. Bay-Schuck credits this as a period of "self-discovery" that contributed significantly to Mars' later success.

WELL, THIS IS ALL BEFORE HE WAS EVEN WELL KNOWN.

CHECK OUT THE STUFF WHEN HE BECAME THE SUPERSTAR HE IS TODAY <3

~> Before becoming a successful solo artist, Hernandez was an acknowledged music producer, writing songs for Alexandra Burke, Travie McCoy, Adam Levine, Brandy, Sean Kingston, and Flo Rida. He also co-wrote the Sugababes' hit song "Get Sexy" and provided backing vocals on their album Sweet 7.
His first musical appearance as a singer was in Far East Movement's second studio album Animal, featured on the track "3D". He was also featured on pastor and hip hop artist Jaeson Ma's debut single "Love" in August 2009.
He reached prominence as a solo artist after being featured on and co-writing B.o.B's "Nothin' on You" and Travie McCoy's "Billionaire"; both songs peaked within the top ten of many charts worldwide.He said of them, "I think those songs weren't meant to be full-sung songs. If I'd sung all of "Nothin' on You", it might've sounded like some '90s R&B."
Following this success, Mars released his debut extended play (EP), titled It's Better If You Don't Understand, on May 11, 2010. The EP peaked at the 99th position on the Billboard 200 and produced one single, "The Other Side", featuring singers Cee-Lo Green and B.o.B.
Mars collaborated with Green once more in August 2010 by co-writing his single "Fuck You!". He performed a medley of "Nothin' on You" and "Airplanes" with B.o.B and Hayley Williams at the 2010 MTV Video Music Awards on September 12, 2010.
Mars' debut album, Doo-Wops & Hooligans, was released digitally on October 4, and saw its physical release on October 5, 2010. The lead single, "Just the Way You Are", was released on July 19, 2010, and has reached the top of the Billboard Hot 100 as well as several other charts worldwide.
The music video was released on September 8, 2010. The second single, "Grenade", was released September 28, 2010, and has also seen successful international chart performance.
In the United States, Doo-Wops & Hooligans debuted at number three on the Billboard 200 for the week of October 13, 2010, selling 55,000 copies. The album also received generally positive reviews from critics. Entertainment Weekly's Leah Greenblatt praised Mars for his "instant-access melodies" and "sly snatches of dance-floor swagger", but noted weaknesses in songs deviant from his conventional pop and soul genres.
He opened for Maroon 5 on the fall leg of the Hands All Over Tour starting October 6, 2010 and co-headlined with McCoy on a European tour starting October 18, 2010.
On September 19, 2010, Mars was arrested in Las Vegas for possession of cocaine. When talking to a police officer, Mars reportedly stated that what he did was "foolish" and that "he has never used drugs before".
Mars pled guilty to felony drug possession, and in return for his plea, the charges will be erased from his criminal record as long as he pays a $2,000 fine, does 200 hours of community service and completes a drug counseling course.

Okay, see, he's not perfect. I mean, this applies to everyone.

But moving on, here is his musical style.

~>
Mars' music has been noted for displaying a wide variety of styles and influences, including pop, rock, reggae, R&B, soul, and hip hop.Although Mars has been referenced as "soft" because of his penchant for using a falsetto voice, his co-producer Philip Lawrence says, "What people don't know is there's a darker underbelly to Bruno Mars." Mars himself says, "I blame that on me singing to girls back in high school."
Jon Caramanica of The New York Times called him "one of the most versatile and accessible singers in pop, with a light, soul-influenced voice that’s an easy fit in a range of styles, a universal donor."Mars was initially influenced by R&B artists such as Keith Sweat, Jodeci and R. Kelly, as well as 1950s rock 'n' roll and Motown. In high school, he began listening to classic rock groups such as The Police, Led Zeppelin, and the Beatles.
All of these genres of music have influenced Mars' musical style; he observed that "It’s not easy to [create] songs with that mixture of rock and soul and hip-hop, and there’s only a handful of them."Mars also stated that he is a fan of Alicia Keys, Jessie J, Jack White and The Saturdays.
In addition, Mars claims that his work with other artists influenced his musical style, saying that "'Nothin' on You' had a Motown vibe, 'Billionaire' was a reggae acoustic guitar-driven song, though one of my favorites is the Cee-Lo [Green] song ['Fuck You!']. I don't think anyone else could've sung that song. And there's 'Just the Way You Are.' If you know my story, you know I love all different genres of music."
He cites doo-wop as a major influence on his music, referring to the genre as "just straightforward love songs – so charming and simple and romantic." In addition, Mars states that growing up in Hawaii influenced his music, giving the songs a reggae sound. He explains that "In Hawaii some of the biggest radio stations are reggae. The local bands are heavily influenced by Bob Marley. That music brings people together. It's not urban music or pop music. It's just songs. That's what makes it cross over so well. The song comes first."
Lyrically, many of Mars' songs have been described as "feel-good", carefree, and optimistic. However, darker subjects are addressed in songs such as "Grenade", "Liquor Store Blues", and "Talking to the Moon", which detail failed relationships and self-destructive behavior.

See why he's so awesome in my eyes?

And I'm sure tons of people feel the same way <3

Well, here comes the conclusion :

        To all the fans out there, continue the good work of supporting one of the most awe-mazing music icon of this generation
        To haters, hope to convert all of you one day :D
        To those who are new in experiencing his music, enjoy the wonder of simple, beautifully placed songs =D

Well, that's all about him~

In my next posts, I will post a few photo's, music videos and must-listen-to song titles :D

I bid you adieu, reader(s).

-RENMARS レン。-

BELIEVE :D

I was browsing a few minutes ago and found this song.

It's really meaningful.

It's title is BELIEVE by SKILLET ^^

I thought I'd share it seeing that it's kinda speaking to my heart.


I'm still trying to figure out
How to tell you I was wrong
I can't fill the emptiness inside
Since you've been gone

So is it you or is it me?
I know I said things that I didn't mean
But you should've known me by now
You should've known me

If you believed when I said
I'd be better off without you
Then you never really knew me at all

If you believed when I said
That I wouldn't be thinking about you
You thought you knew the truth
But you're wrong

You're all that I need
Just tell me that you still believe

I can't undo the things
That led us to this place
But I know there's something more
To us than our mistakes

So is it you or is it me?
I know I'm so blind when we don't agree
But you should've known me by now
You should've known me

If you believed when I said
I'd be better off without you
Then you never really knew me at all

If you believed when I said
That I wouldn't be thinking about you
You thought you knew the truth
But you're wrong

You're all that I need
Just tell me that you still believe

Is it you or is it me?
I know I said things that I didn't mean
You should've known me by now
You should've known me

If you believed when I said
I'd be better off without you
Then you never really knew me at all

If you believed when I said
That I wouldn't be thinking about you
You thought you knew the truth
But you're wrong

'Cause you're all that I want
Don't you even know me at all?
You're all that I need
Just tell me that you still believe


-RENMARS レン。-

Something Bout' Love

This is what I chose for my English oral this time.

My reason? I can soo relate here.

Eventhough its about romantic relationships, but when you think 'bout it, it sorta' suits friendship relationships too.

I'd be happy to read your comments :D

Enjoy~!

YOU WANT TO BE LIED TO

Why we subconsciously avoid the truth in relationships? Well, there are things we want to know about in our romantic relationships- and then there are things we don't want to know. We may think and believe that we want to know anything and everything about our partner, but the truth is- we are not ready and willing to accept the reality of lust, love and relationships- because if we were, we would not get so upset over so many things.

Understanding the reality of love and relationships is the key that will help you achieve the true happiness that you claim you want to have in your life. So what is the reality when it comes to love and relationships?

Freedom!

Yes, that's right- love is free. Until you accept this reality, you will never be happy. As soon as a relationship involves one or two people trying to change each other and control certain things, it is no longer free and love without freedom cannot really be defined as true love. You have heard it all before and have probably even said it yourself that love should be unconditional. You may have even told someone that you love them unconditionally, or have been told that you are love unconditionally. Why then do we put so many conditions in our romantic love relationships? As a society, we are taught that love is pure, loyal, faithful, passionate and unconditional, yet most of us rarely apply those things in the long run of a relationship. We say love is all those things because that is what we want love to be like for us. These qualities in a love relationship make us feel safe, secure and special and everyone wants to feel this way. However, what we often to do not take the time realize and care about is the fact that we are always focus on how we can achieve all this unconditional love from someone, rather than how we can achieve at giving it. It is only natural though, which also means one thing: the person you truly love unconditionally in a romantic relationship is yourself!

As selfish as it may sound, it is true. When you are out looking for a perfect partner, you are looking for someone who will treat “you” right, who will love “you”, be faithful to “you”, feel most attracted to “you”, as well as someone who will accept “you” just the way “you” are. We are al looking out for ourselves, looking for a relationship we will feel be a healthy and worthy investment that will result in us getting what we want. In return, we will of course love our partners back (and genuinely), but not for free. Love is not something we just give out like charity. Our love is precious and must be earned. We have to feel convinced that someone is worth our time, and worth sharing our emotional and physical being with. We are constantly observing our partners behaviors and trying to calculate whether they are meeting up to “our expectations”- and if they are not, we try to find ways to alter our relationship until it feels like a perfect fit.

Honestly, there is no perfect fit. You cannot custom make a relationship to fit your needs and desires only. This is because a relationship involves two people, two individuals. It may seem obvious and cliché to mention that it takes compromise in order to make a relationship work, but it is still very necessary to say. You must remind yourself over and over again that true love is about working together and accepting your partner who he/she really is- not accepting him/her as the person you custom designed (or wish you could custom design anyway). Again, this may sound like common sense, and it is, but most of us are not applying that, for if we were, we would be enjoying true relationship bliss.

So, how can you truly be happy and feel secure in a relationship? By accepting reality and choosing the truth over lies. You may claim you want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth (so help you), but in a way, you want to be lied to. As crazy as it sounds, we all want to live some sort of illusion. We need that fluffy soft love cloud called” illusion” to land on so we can feel special and avoid pain, because let’s face it- certain truths do hurt and stab us in our emotional hearts.

The good news is you don’t have to want to be lied to anymore! You can be strong and brave enough to take in the whole truth and reality of life and still be happy, satisfied and completely confident about yourself while in a relationship with someone.

The following are some truths you would normally want to be lied to over or in denial about, but can now understand and accept:

• YOUR PARTNER WILL NOT CHANGE!

Yes, people do evolve and do make certain changes (or adaptations) in time, but there are also certain personality traits that a person will always carry. If you really want to be with someone, you have to accept right from the start that they are who they are. Entering a relationship with the hope and goal to change your partner in some way will only end in disappointment for you, not to mention your partner will eventually resent you for trying to change him/her- and will probably rebel too- or leave eventually.

• BEING IN LOVE DOES NOT EQUAL TO BLINDNESS!

When two people fall in love, all they want to do is be with each other all the time. However, it is important to understand that just because you and your partner may be in love, it does not mean one or both of you will not still find other people attractive. This is normal and natural, but does not mean that you are all of a sudden less attractive to your partner. Love and casual attraction are very different and you should not feel threatened by this (unless your partner crossed the line in any way). So just enjoy being in love and building a life with your love and do not obsess about who he or she may find attractive. This will only turn you into a jealous person ad will also influence your partner to walk on eggshells around you and even lie.

• YOU BOTH ARE STILL INDIVIDUALS!

Though you may be a “couple”, you are still two separate people. And while you both may share most things in common, there will still certain interests and hobbies your partner will have and want to enjoy on his/her own- and this is not something you should feel worried about or offended by. Doing things separately from time to time and fulfilling your individual goals is healthy and should be supported in a relationship. So do not expect to be attached at the hip all the time- let your partner practice and enjoy their individuality too!

As you can see, these are very logical and seemingly easy tips to follow but without the occasional reminder, we can all find ourselves having relationship trouble over these little logical things. So just give yourself a reminder once in a while and remember to acknowledge the truth of your relationship, rather than lie to yourself about how you wish things could be or how you think they should be.

Well, there's a scary thought.

We are lying to ourselves to protect our fluffy illusion?

Do any of you agree?

I wonder.

Well, peace out peeps!

-RENMARS レン。-

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Hey peeps!
Welcome to my weirdo page ;)
 Enjoy the weirdness of it.

My postings are purely for fun, randomness and just being ME.

But... should you feel I'm being offensive...

Well, they have this saying, "Siapa makan cili dia yang rasa pedas..."

No offense =) My words may be sharp but I never intentionally hurt anyone.

At least, I think so XD

Anyway, enjoy and welcome once again!

-RENMARS レン。